Fix: Database listing now works with peer authentication

Issue: Interactive cluster restore preview showed 'Cannot list databases: exit status 2'
when trying to detect existing databases. This happened because the safety check
functions always used '-h hostname' flag with psql, which breaks peer authentication.

Root cause:
- listPostgresUserDatabases() and checkPostgresDatabaseExists() always included -h flag
- For localhost peer auth, psql should connect via Unix socket (no -h flag)
- Adding -h localhost forces TCP connection which fails with peer authentication

Solution: Match the pattern used throughout the codebase:
- Only add -h flag when host is NOT localhost/127.0.0.1/empty
- For localhost, skip -h flag to use Unix socket
- Set PGPASSWORD only if password is provided

Fixed functions in internal/restore/safety.go:
- listPostgresUserDatabases()
- checkPostgresDatabaseExists()

Now interactive mode correctly shows existing databases count and list when
running as postgres user with peer authentication.

internal/restore/safety.go

@@ -297,16 +297,24 @@ func (s *Safety) CheckDatabaseExists(ctx context.Context, dbName string) (bool,
 
 // checkPostgresDatabaseExists checks if PostgreSQL database exists
 func (s *Safety) checkPostgresDatabaseExists(ctx context.Context, dbName string) (bool, error) {
-	cmd := exec.CommandContext(ctx,
-		"psql",
-		"-h", s.cfg.Host,
+	args := []string{
 		"-p", fmt.Sprintf("%d", s.cfg.Port),
 		"-U", s.cfg.User,
 		"-d", "postgres",
 		"-tAc", fmt.Sprintf("SELECT 1 FROM pg_database WHERE datname='%s'", dbName),
-	)
+	}
 	
+	// Only add -h flag if host is not localhost (to use Unix socket for peer auth)
+	if s.cfg.Host != "localhost" && s.cfg.Host != "127.0.0.1" && s.cfg.Host != "" {
+		args = append([]string{"-h", s.cfg.Host}, args...)
+	}
+	
+	cmd := exec.CommandContext(ctx, "psql", args...)
+
+	// Set password if provided
+	if s.cfg.Password != "" {
 		cmd.Env = append(os.Environ(), fmt.Sprintf("PGPASSWORD=%s", s.cfg.Password))
+	}
 
 	output, err := cmd.Output()
 	if err != nil {
@@ -354,17 +362,25 @@ func (s *Safety) listPostgresUserDatabases(ctx context.Context) ([]string, error
 	// Query to get non-template databases excluding 'postgres' system DB
 	query := "SELECT datname FROM pg_database WHERE datistemplate = false AND datname != 'postgres' ORDER BY datname"
 	
-	cmd := exec.CommandContext(ctx,
-		"psql",
-		"-h", s.cfg.Host,
+	args := []string{
 		"-p", fmt.Sprintf("%d", s.cfg.Port),
 		"-U", s.cfg.User,
 		"-d", "postgres",
 		"-tA", // Tuples only, unaligned
 		"-c", query,
-	)
+	}
 	
+	// Only add -h flag if host is not localhost (to use Unix socket for peer auth)
+	if s.cfg.Host != "localhost" && s.cfg.Host != "127.0.0.1" && s.cfg.Host != "" {
+		args = append([]string{"-h", s.cfg.Host}, args...)
+	}
+	
+	cmd := exec.CommandContext(ctx, "psql", args...)
+
+	// Set password if provided
+	if s.cfg.Password != "" {
 		cmd.Env = append(os.Environ(), fmt.Sprintf("PGPASSWORD=%s", s.cfg.Password))
+	}
 
 	output, err := cmd.Output()
 	if err != nil {